Former first lady Michelle Obama has hit back at rumors she and husband Barack are headed for divorce, blaming the rampant speculation on her decision to exercise her newfound independence.
The 61-year-old broke her silence on Sophia Bush’s “Work in Progress” podcast Wednesday after the Obamas were dogged by gossip that their marriage was on the rocks when she opted to skip several high-profile events earlier this year — including President Trump’s inauguration.
“The interesting thing is that, when I say ‘no,’ for the most part people are like, ‘I get it, and I’m OK,’” the mom of two said of her decision to turn down key invitations.
“And that’s the thing that we as women struggle with — disappointing people,” she continued.
“So much so that people, they couldn’t even fathom that I was making a choice for myself, that they had to assume that my husband and I are divorcing.”
Michelle scoffed at widespread speculation they’d had called it quits on their three-decade union, noting that it was unbelievable to some that she could possibly be “a grown woman just making a set of decisions for herself.”
“But that’s what society does to us,” she said. “We actually finally start going, ‘What am I doing? Who am I doing this for?’ And if it doesn’t fit into the sort of stereotype of what people think we should do, then it gets labeled as something negative and horrible.”
Rumors of a rift between the Obamas exploded in January after the former president showed up to Trump’s inauguration and President Jimmy Carter’s funeral without his wife by his side.
As the gossip mill went into overdrive, it was revealed that Michelle was on an extended break in Hawaii when the funeral was held, and that she opted out of Trump’s swearing-in to avoid fake pleasantries.
Michelle acknowledged she is now more in control of her calendar since she’s no longer tied to the White House and the couple’s two daughters — Malia, 26, and Sasha, 23 — have flown the coup.
“I get to look at my calendar, which I did this year. It was a real big example of me, myself, looking at something that I was supposed to do, you know, without naming names, and I chose to do what was best for me,” she said.
“Not what I had to do, not what other people wanted me to do, and between you and me, that was an important test for me just as a woman, as an independent person. Because, like all women, I operate from guilt.”
She added, too, that it was “time to make some big girl decisions” in her life — and “own it fully.”
“Now is the time for me to start asking myself these hard questions of, ‘Who do I truly want to be every day?’ And that changes,” Michelle said.
“So, who do I want to have a lunch with? How long do I want to stay in a place? Do I want to travel? If a girlfriend calls and says, ‘Let’s go here,’ I can say ‘Yes!’ I can. And I’m trying to do that more and more.”
“So what does it look like? It looks like whatever I want it to look like. And I still find time to give speeches, to be out there in the world, to work on projects. I still care about girls’ education,” the ex-first lady added.
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🔥 Aries (March 21 – April 19)
Energy: High
Focus: Career & self-discipline
You’re fired up with fresh motivation. It’s a great time to tackle new projects or aim for a promotion. Just remember to channel your energy productively—impulsive decisions might backfire. Romance might heat up unexpectedly.
🌱 Taurus (April 20 – May 20)
Energy: Steady
Focus: Finances & home
Financial opportunities may arise, especially through investments or property. You’re craving more stability and comfort—maybe it’s time to redecorate your space or invest in self-care. Trust your gut when it comes to personal relationships.
🌬 Gemini (May 21 – June 20)
Energy: Curious
Focus: Communication & connections
Your words carry weight this month. Speak clearly and you’ll influence others with ease. Great time for writing, speaking, or reconnecting with old friends. Watch out for overthinking—clarity comes from slowing down.
🌊 Cancer (June 21 – July 22)
Energy: Reflective
Focus: Health & emotional well-being
Your intuition is heightened. Listen to your inner voice—it’s guiding you toward emotional clarity. Focus on your routines and health; a small habit change could lead to big results. Be gentle with yourself and others.
🔥 Leo (July 23 – August 22)
Energy: Creative
Focus: Self-expression & love
You’re glowing with charm and creativity. Whether in romance or work, you’ll attract admiration. Step into the spotlight and let your talents shine, but don’t forget to share it with those who’ve supported you.
🌱 Virgo (August 23 – September 22)
Energy: Practical
Focus: Home & healing
You’re in a mood to organize, clean, and create calm. This is a perfect time to declutter—both physically and emotionally. Nurture your family connections and give yourself permission to rest when needed.
🌬 Libra (September 23 – October 22)
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Energy: Intense
Focus: Money & values
A deep transformation around your self-worth or finances may occur. Be mindful of where you invest your energy—financial growth is possible if you trust your instincts. Secrets may come to light, offering emotional release.
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Focus: Self-growth & visibility
You’re stepping into a phase of bold self-expression. Opportunities for travel or personal development may arise. Say yes to experiences that broaden your horizon. Romance could come from unexpected places—stay open.
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Energy: Grounded
Focus: Spiritual growth & letting go
It’s a quiet but powerful time. Let go of old burdens and make peace with the past. Trust in your inner strength. Reflection now leads to major breakthroughs later. Prioritize rest and avoid overworking.
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Energy: Innovative
Focus: Friendships & future planning
You’re full of ideas—and others want to hear them. This is a good time to collaborate or join a cause you care about. Social connections bring joy, but make sure to recharge alone when needed.
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Energy: Dreamy
Focus: Goals & recognition
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